Talk about marital infidelities and foremost that comes to
mind is a husband’s betrayal of the marriage vows. This concept is now passé
and somehow the adage that “what men can do, women can do too and at times better
(or worst),” is also relevant to this topic due to the rising cases of women’s infidelities today.
Let’s take a look on the raison d'être behind these
infidelities.
Mynah claims to be deeply in love with her husband and she
could not picture herself living with anybody else under one roof aside from him. She says that their relationship is going on very
smoothly. They both enjoy doing things
together and their activities are planned and accomplished as designed. Now, why put their marriage in jeopardy by
secretly getting involved with someone else? She alleged to have found a new excitement and
thrill in doing this discreetly, and a pleasure she found difficult to explain
but added a spice into the monotonous
routine of her life. We may not agree with her line of reasoning
but it only shows that infidelity takes place between happily married couples
too.
Others are due to:
Adulterous Husband – This seems to be the prevalent reason
for women to be unfaithful too. Some
women who could no longer stand their husbands’ philandering ways become
rebellious and resort to being disloyal to them to get even. This is the case where women feel less guilty (or not guilty at all). Generally, the wife sees this as a reality of
her life and feels that she’s not doing wrong.
Distance – Loneliness is one factor that creates
vulnerability in women that when someone shows concern and attention they easily
fall for him.
Battered or Taken for Granted – Miserable conditions and the feeling of helplessness make women cling to whoever would give them a chance
to come out of their wretched condition. Someone under this category professed that she was
forced to resort to it as this was one way for her to maintain her
sanity and the motivating force to
continue on living.
Difference in preferences – According to Sheilah, pleasing
her husband is almost impossible. They
argue on a lot of things as they seem to visualize things and situations on
different aspects. And this she only
discovered after the marriage. Tired
from arguing and justifying her actions and decisions most of the time, she was
drawn into an association with someone whom she shares similar interests which later
developed into a more intimate alliance.
There are myriad of reasons why women go off track in
their marriage life but above cases are the most common. These bring to conclusion that boredom,
revenge, loneliness, misery, need for ego or moral boosting could instigate
wives to betray their husbands and find solace in another to seek protection
and feeling of security and importance.
Often times, infidelities are unintentional but circumstances play a great part and
influence them to play this dangerous game of life. It also shows that not all women who cheat do
not love their respective husbands. It’s
just that too much familiarity and too much routine in marital activities tend
to wane down feelings to level of friendship thus losing the excitement and the
passion they once have.
Despite all these, I think no one could rightfully
denounce them and referring to them as “scarlet women” is inappropriate and
callous. We had not experienced and felt
the sentiments they had gone through. In the Bible, Jesus himself did not condemn
the woman that the crowd wanted to stone to death for adultery, so what right
do we have to do it?
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